When a heart breaks, it 'don't break even.

My last blog I spoke of being honest and open. But sometimes, honesty is just too much to handle. It's the end of the semester, and some push away the people they care about for some stupid reason. I guess I just don't think distance is a good enough reason to hurt people you claim to care about. To each his own, I suppose. In this entry I am going to cover the consequences of the way you may choose to end a relationship.

The best way is to be clear and honest. Believe it or not it's the least painful solution in the long run. You're  also less likely to be considered an ass. If you just don't feel the same way about a person, tell them. It'll suck no matter what, so why not spare their feelings as much as possible?

Some try the fight approach which usually consists of making the other person want to dump you. This is stupid because you're wasting time and tears. And most people want to make relationships work once their in it. This tactic could take years and it causes a lot of pain and hardship with everyone involved and makes the person you once cared about look crazy because they just don't get what happened. It's a dick move.

Others try to let their ex down gently, and get mad when the person doesn't understand. If you don't say how you're truly feeling, you can't expect the person to guess. This person probably really cares about you and wants to believe you. This usually leads to a traumatic experience for the ex, who probably didn't get that it was over because you lead to believe this person it was okay. This makes you look like a terrible person and you get mad at everyone for what you caused. Half honesty gets you nowhere.

There are many ways that break ups could happen.. infidelity, getting sick of each other, or having an okay break up. At any rate break ups are difficult. There is no reason to intentionally hurt the other person more then you need to, though. Honesty truly is the best policy.

And if you've been broken up with, it'll be alright. Get back on the horse and you will find someone who is good for you. Break ups suck hardcore, but they need to happen if the relationship just isn't right. My only advice for you is spend time with friends and family if you're having a hard time. For those who care for you, you mean the world.

Because when a heart breaks, it never breaks even. But it will heal, and you learn from your scars. I'm sorry this has to happen, and I'm sorry this entry has a drastically different feel then my last blog.

Till next time, know your decisions drastically affects others.

Sampa